The disabled need love too

Love! For such a short and easy word it probably has the most weight to it. We say it so often and so easily and yet do we really know it or understand it?

Love on its own has enough gravity but when you add unconditional to it, it goes to a whole new level. Love to define it in the simplest possible way is a principle of doing to another as you would want to be done unto you.

Unconditional would then be doing to another as you would want done unto you, regardless of their circumstances or condition or even how they might treat you. love on its own is a heavy enough principle and unconditional love becomes other-worldly.

Though we fail most of the time at practicing this deep principle, we all desire it and I can only imagine what kind of world this would be if we practiced it as we would like unto ourselves.

Real Love is divine and unconditional love is even moreso. Naturally we love those who are good to us or close to us but to practice the same towards strangers at the same level is divine. It takes something out of ourselves and is unnatural for us, as is written:

Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. 1 John 4:7.


To love another as we would like to be loved regardless of their condition or how they treat us in return is really divine and is not something that we can do naturally on our own. Love does to another as one would want to be treated while love unconditional does not look at condition, state, circumstances, etc.

I have been skirting around what is really on my heart, what I really want to talk about. The last time i was talking about people with disabilities, that they need love too. They are no less different from you and I. We all have hearts and we all need love the same.

Love is an ideal which we all desire in our lives. To love or be loved unconditionally is something that i would like myself and to be able to do myself. but i realize that it is something that only God by his power can help us to do. We can not do it on our own. Just as much as we desire unconditional love, they desire it too.

I was thinking about the struggles that some are facing. They do not open up to others as much as they would like, not that they do not want to be loved, but because they are afraid of being rejected. That is painful, to be unable to open up and be open to be loved because of fear of rejection.

The sad fact is that many do go through rejection and some might even lose hope of being loved and to be able to find another to spend the rest of their lives with. They face challenges and burdens that I don't fully understand myself as I am saying these things based on what I think or imagine.

This has just been burning on my mind because imagining myself in their shoes, I would want to be loved unconditionally, regardless of the situation. It would be painful to be rejected based on one's circumstances. I know that it would really be painful to me.

None of us are exempt and these things can happen to anyone.  We all know deep down in our hearts that we would still want to be loved unconditionally and to be accepted as before. if we realize this, I hope that it changes our perspective on the challenges these people go through. That we love and accept them just as much as we would want if we would be in their shoes.

The other thing is that when a man and a woman echange vows, they promise to love and be there for each other no matter the circumstances, whether in sickness or in health, for richer or for poorer. But love out of our natural hearts is impossible and thus does not last. That's why vows are broken and marriages come to an end, even though vows were made before God.

Even in ideal circumstances where the 2 are perfectly healthy, those vows are still broken and love promised is not fulfilled because love in itself is divine. We can not produce it on our own and for it to last, God has to be present.

What about when 2 come together and the circumstances are less than ideal with one impaired in some sort of way. They need love too and the principle does not change. But why is it that people might look at the one who is not impaired strangely for taking one who is impaired when they had the option of getting someone else not impaired?

But who's to say who's ideal? Is love not about the heart? Ultimately it should be about what's inside and not what's outside. Marriage to one who is not impaired does not mean that it will be ideal as testified to by the at least 50% divorce rate in this country. Though an impairment can be challenging, ultimately, love is about the heart and they need love too.

Just something I was thinking about and thought i should share.

Treat others as you want to be treated

Sorry I have been away for a while. Gotten busy here lately. Working on something which I hope to surprise you with coming soon.

I was just thinking about something yesterday especially but also today. There are a lot of things that can happen in life and to any one of us. Things happen everyday that people did not plan for or would not wish for.

It can be a disease or disability through an accident. The unfortunate thing is that we as society tend to treat people differently based on whatever malady they might be going through. The other is that their circumstances don't make their heart any different from what it was before. The outside might change because of illness or disability, but the heart is the same, and that person is still the same old person they have always been.

The thing is that as society we treat people with disabilities or some sort of sickness "differently" whether we admit it or not. Some sicknesses or circumstances are superstitiously considered to be visitations upon them for their sins or some wrongdoing. AIDS patients for example are treated somewhat differently depending on the culture but it is generally a stigma no matter where one is.

Disabled individuals, especially those whose disability comes later in life are also treated differently. Usually the immediate family is sympathetic of course but strangers generally are not as sympathetic. To a stranger, it is just another disabled person.

That leads to my question. Do we have to know someone directly who has experienced any of the above examples for us to understand their situation and to be sympathetic? Does it have to come so close to home that we finally can understand their situation, how tough and burdensome life can be, especially when people don't fully understand the magnitude of the situation?

The thing is that if you end up in similar circumstances or with disability, how would you want people to treat you? No matter our circumstances, we all want to be treated equally and fairly. The thing is that we are truthfully not as sympathetic when we are spectators but if tables were to turn, I believe we would then understand how it feels to be marginalized because of one's situation.

No matter what's going on outwardly whether it's disease or disability, something stays constant and that is that person's heart. That person might be someone's child, or father, brother, or friend just as you might love your beloved. They still have a heart and are the same inside as they were before. If they were beloved or loveable before their circumstances, does that make them any less loveable after?

They are still the same person, just going through unfortunate circumstances. You and i know that deep inside we would want to be treated the same in sickness or in health, in disability or not. As society we do treat people in those circumstances differently from the rest, mostly without our realizing it. We might even avoid helping them in certain situations when we know we should have. We don't quite understand their challenges and the isolation they might experience depending on their circumstance.

But would you want people to avoid helping you when you desperately needed assistance? would you want people to isolate you because of a stigma attached to your circumstance? Would you want to be treated any less differently from before the change in your circumstances? Would you not want to be treated like everyone else and to be loved like everyone else and to be appreciated just like before?

They need love too just like we do. They also have dreams and hopes and are no different from before. If you or I were to be in the same circumstances, we know that our hearts would be the same old person we have always been and nothing different. Just circumstances different, not the heart.

Friends, I was just thinking about this and decided to share my thoughts. This is how I look at this and you might see things differently on this. I was just thinking that just as I need love right now, i would probably need it more to be able to weather change in circumstance. If we are "okay" and need love and support, what more someone we might know or even more, someone we might not know whose situation we know nothing about or understand.

We all need love no matter our situations. We all would like to be treated equally and without partiality no matter our circumstances.  We all would like to be seen for what's in our hearts, not our outward appearance or whatever we might be experiencing. One is not any less human because of what they might be going through.

God is not partial and sees the heart and judges based on the heart and not the outward appearance or what's going on outwardly, as is written:

For there is no respect of persons with God. Romans 2:11.

But if ye have respect to persons, ye commit sin, and are convinced of the law as transgressors. James 2:9.

Then Peter opened his mouth, and said, Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons: But in every nation he that feareth him, and worketh righteousness, is accepted with him. Acts 10:34, 35.

I charge thee before God, and the Lord Jesus Christ, and the elect angels, that thou observe these things without preferring one before another, doing nothing by partiality. 1 Timothy 5:21.

But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. James 3:17.


So friends, if god is not partial or does not people differently because of their circumstances but looks on the heart and based on their heart, what about us?

We can't even see a person's heart like God does therefore, even to judge is not right for us to do. Our duty is to be impartial and to love our Neighbour as ourselves, regardless of their circumstances.


And it is also important for us to remember that we are not exempt from these things. If unfortunate circumstances befall you or I, we would still want to be treated the same and to be loved just as much as before, if not more.

Just a thought friends.

God Bless